All kids need support in their exploration, discovery, and development of their sparks—however, according to recent studies, very few kids are getting the support they need. Parents, by talking with their children about their dreams, talent, hobbies, and ideas can provide that support. Not only that, but these conversations can help parents and kids become closer.
Use the conversation starters below include helpful tips on finding the right moment to have the conversation, how to start (and keep) kids talking, and how to follow through afterward.
Conversation Starter 1: You're really good at this!
Conversation Starter 2: This seems to make you happy.
Conversation Starter 3: Have you ever thought of?
Conversation Starter 4: I had a really great day today!
Five Tips to Get You Started
1. Focus on their unique interests.
Make sure your kids are spending some structured out-of-school time in areas that interest them. It’s easy to fall into arranging your kids’ out-of-school time activities by what’s convenient—or interesting—for you. Encourage your child to explore at least one activity of her choice.
2. Observe your kids.
Ask yourself these questions: What is the activity you have to make them stop doing to get them to eat or go to sleep? What activity are they doing when they seem most engaged and alive? When they get to choose what to do on a free afternoon, what activity do they choose?
3. Ask, then listen.
Start some spark conversations with your children. Talk about what a spark is, then ask whether they have one and what it is—you might be surprised at the answers. Be ready to share what your sparks are, too! To keep the conversation going, ask what they most enjoy about the sparks they name.
4. Provide opportunities to explore.
Check out afterschool activities, community education classes, museums, local park and recreation offerings, and city or town websites to find new options for your kids—and you!—to try. For low-cost, easy options, see if friends or neighbors would like to take turns offering interesting activities for kids, or check your local library for free passes to area museums and events.
5. Support and connect your kids.
Encourage them intentionally with words that praise their interests and efforts; don’t focus only on success or “winning”. Remember, too, that connecting a child with other caring adults, especially those who are experienced in their areas of interest, can open for them new worlds of opportunity and learning.
