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How Your Child May Be Developing Spiritually

• Is a concrete, literal thinker, and cannot understand abstract words and understandings of spirituality.
• Begins to wonder more about the world around her or him. Why do things happen?
• Asks cause-and-effect questions about good and bad, life after death, and other big issues.
• Starts to make sense of the world by learning and retelling stories.
• Becomes aware that friends may have different spiritual practices.

What You May Experience as a Parent

• Satisfaction when your child learns spiritual or religious stories, music, practices, and knowledge that are important to your family.
• Discomfort as your child asks questions about the world, God, and other spiritual matters that are difficult to answer.
• Frustration when your child becomes bored or disinterested in spiritual practices or rituals.

Nurturing Your Child’s Spiritual Development

• Maintain a warm, caring relationship, even when you’re frustrated.
• Read stories and enjoy music or other arts with religious or spiritual themes.
• Make conversations about spiritual matters a regular part of family life. Listen to your child’s perspectives and questions. Share your perspectives in ways your child can understand.
• Find activities that interest your child and reinforce your family’s spiritual commitments.
• Encourage your child to participate in activities and peer groups that nurture her or his spirit. Affirm growth and leadership.
• Link with other parents and families who share your spiritual beliefs, practices, and priorities.